Show out. Show off. Show up. - Candice Myers

Merry Christmas, SkyMoms!

It’s the most wonderful time of the year...right? I saw a meme the other day that asked what a wife was giving her husband for Christmas. The response: “the ability to not have to worry about anything other than showing up on Christmas morning.” It’s clearly a joke and a gentle (or not) jab at husbands, and a shout out to moms who are generally the ones creating the magic, doing the things, and making sure it all happens during this flurry of a season. But it did get me thinking…

Show out. Show off. Show up. I searched a few dictionary sites for definitions of these phrases, and generally speaking, here’s what I found:

Show out: to make a strong impression

Show off: to behave in a way that is intended to attract attention or admiration, and that other people often find annoying

Show up: to arrive for a gathering or event; to appear or be seen; to be there for someone when they need you

The Christmas season provides opportunity to do any and all of these things, doesn’t it? The decorations, the outfits, the parties, the food, the gifts….so many chances to show out and show off. And frankly, even as an extrovert, sometimes “showing up” is the hardest thing for me at this time of year. There are so many events, invitations, and requests for my time that I sometimes find myself complaining and dreading “one more thing” to attend.  

But I had a conversation with a friend recently who had lost someone close to her. As she was processing the experience, one of the things that surprised her was how much it meant to her when people “showed up”. Whether it was to bring a meal, to attend the memorial, or just to sit with her for a bit, the “being there” is what mattered most. We talked about the “ministry of just showing up”. Galatians 6:2 reminds us to “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” While I sometimes think I can’t add one more thing to my plate, it’s so important for us to show up for each other, especially for those who may be struggling this holiday season. How much more valuable is my PRESENCE to those I love that the PRESENTS I have to offer?  

So this year, I am working to intentionally “show up” and be fully present – to look my people in the eye and not be distracted by my long to-do list. I’m committed to leaving the mess a little longer and enjoying the moments together - to talking slower and listening attentively. And to showing up rather than showing out.

- Candice Myers